Therapy for Perfectionism
for Individuals in Ontario, Alberta, and BC
When It Never Feels Like Enough
You might be the one others turn to — reliable, thoughtful, driven. You hold yourself to high standards and often go the extra mile. But beneath the surface, there’s tension: a fear of failure, an inner critic that won’t quiet down, and a tiredness that doesn’t seem to go away
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You may feel like you’re always performing, always “on,” always striving — and yet still not measuring up. Even rest can feel undeserved.
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This is the invisible weight of perfectionism. And it doesn’t have to be this way.​​
What Perfectionism Can Look Like:
Perfectionism doesn’t mean being perfect — it often means feeling like you can’t afford not to be. It can show up in many ways, including:
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Constant self-criticism, even when you’ve done well
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Avoiding tasks for fear of doing them “wrong”
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Struggling to relax
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Feeling like your worth is tied to productivity or achievement
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Difficulty asking for help or saying no
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Comparing yourself to others and feeling like you fall short
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Guilt or shame when you’re not meeting expectations — especially your own
It might look like you're holding everything together, but internally, perfectionism can bring tension, overwhelm, and a persistent sense of not measuring up.
My Approach
In therapy, we’ll take a compassionate and curious look at the deeper patterns behind perfectionism — where they came from, what they protect you from, and how they’re affecting you today.
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My approach blends:
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help you connect with your emotions and needs
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Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to shift self-critical thoughts
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Psychodynamic Therapy to explore early experiences and core beliefs
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A culturally sensitive lens that recognizes how perfectionism can be shaped by family, culture, and societal expectations
There’s no pressure to “fix” anything — just a space to be real, and to gently try something different.
Together, We’ll:
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Slow down and listen to the parts of you that feel the need to do more, be better, or prove yourself
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Understand how perfectionism developed and what it’s trying to protect
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Build self-compassion without losing your motivation
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Practice setting boundaries and giving yourself permission to rest
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Reconnect with your own values, goals, and sense of self — outside of achievement
You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone
Perfectionism might have helped you survive — but it doesn’t have to lead the way forward.
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I offer virtual therapy for perfectionism to clients across Ontario, Alberta, and British Columbia, so you can access support from the comfort of home. Whether you're in Toronto, Vancouver, Calgary, or somewhere in between, I’m here to help.
Book a free 20 minute consultation to see if we’re a good fit.
Let’s Connect and Start Your Journey to Well-Being
Ready to take the first step toward greater self-understanding and emotional well-being?
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II offer a free 20-minute consultation to explore your needs and see if we’re a good fit. Whether you’re navigating anxiety, perfectionism, or struggling to make sense of your emotions, I provide a supportive space where we can begin to untangle these experiences together. I’d be happy to connect.
Tel: 647-560-0439
PO Box 1127, 7B Pleasant Boulevard, Toronto, ON, M4T 1K2,
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My Approach to Therapy
I support clients navigating anxiety, perfectionism, and lingering feelings of shame or self-doubt.
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In our work, we make space for what’s been hard to feel, understand long-standing patterns, and begin relating to yourself with more compassion and a clearer sense of who you are and what matters to you.
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I draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), and psychodynamic approaches, always tailored to what resonates with you.​
Together, we might explore:
• Emotions you've learned to suppress or override
• How to set boundaries without guilt
• The deeper roots of self-doubt
• What it means to feel more grounded and whole