Anger is an emotion that often terrifies us. We fear its intensity, its potential for destruction, and the loss of control it can bring. Society tells us to stay calm, to find peace, to replace anger with gratitude or stillness. But what if the answer lies not in suppressing anger, but in feeling it? In truly hearing what it has to say?
The Nature of Anger
Anger, at its core, is protective. It arises when we perceive a threat—whether to our boundaries, our dignity, or our sense of safety. It's an emotion that signals something vital within us needs attention. Yet, many of us have been conditioned to dismiss or bury it, believing that to feel anger is somehow wrong, or that it makes us "bad".
Feeling Without Reacting: Understanding the Power of Anger
Feeling anger and acting on it are two very different things. To feel anger is to acknowledge and sit with the emotion, understanding its roots and what it’s trying to tell you. Acting on anger, however, often means reacting impulsively, without reflection, which can lead to harm. The goal isn’t to suppress or deny anger, but to feel it fully, giving yourself the space to explore it, so it doesn’t take control of your actions.
The Danger of Suppression
In my work as a therapist, I see what happens when anger is pushed aside. We think we are avoiding it, but it has a way of manifesting in unhealthy ways—explosive outbursts, passive-aggression, or internalized self-blame. The more we try to control or silence our anger, the more it controls us.
Feeling to Heal
The path to healing isn’t through avoidance, but through exploration. Anger needs to be acknowledged, felt, and understood. What is it protecting? What fear or pain lies beneath it? By sitting with these questions, we can allow anger to shift into something softer—a desire for justice, a call for boundaries, or a plea for understanding.
To feel anger is not to act on it impulsively, but to allow it the space to exist. Only when we make room for it can we transform it into something meaningful. Anger, like any emotion, has a purpose. It is not the enemy—it is a guide.
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If you've ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions, remember that they carry important messages. Exploring them with compassion can lead to deeper understanding and growth.
If you're ready to begin that journey, I invite you to book a free 20 minute consultation and discover how therapy can help you navigate and transform your emotions
Warmly,
Hannah Peirce
Registered Social Worker and Psychotherapist
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